The Five Love Languages Quiz

The Five Love Languages Quiz is a valuable exercise for couples, as love languages are a helpful tool to improve how we communicate and express ourselves to one another. However, they shouldn't be seen as a complete solution for happiness. Instead, they should serve as a starting point, guiding couples on a journey to connect more deeply and organize their relationship better. But the work shouldn't stop there.

The Five Love Languages Quiz: What Is My Love Language?

To discover your type, read the following statements and identify those that resonate deeply with you. Filter through: how do you show love? What do you complain about in the relationship? What do you actively ask for or need from your partner on a daily basis? The statements that resonate most with you indicate your primary love language. If two or more languages are tied at the top (which is common!), use a process of elimination and work your way down the list until you are left with one or two languages you can't give up. 

Words of Affirmation

• You truly love hearing your partner say, "I love you." These three words are especially meaningful, special, and reassuring to hear. Again and again. 
• You appreciate being recognized and praised. It's nice when your efforts are acknowledged with kind words, no matter how small. It lets you know you are valued. Bonus points if the praise comes out of the blue. 
• Details matter, and it's important when your partner notices things like if you've changed your hair or dressed up for a Zoom work call instead of staying in your pajamas. It shows they're paying attention, which helps you feel cherished.
• You feel appreciated when they take the time to think about and comment on something positive they notice you doing. 
• When you do something nice for your partner, they say, "Thank you," which makes you feel valued and affirmed.

Quality Time 

• You love spending uninterrupted time with your partner. It's important to have enough time to hang out and enjoy each other's company with full attention. No distractions, please. 
• It means a lot when they make time for you, prioritize you in their schedule, and don't cancel plans.
• Sharing new experiences means the world to you. 
• Time is precious, and you appreciate savoring every second together. 
• You feel content and happy just being near your partner, even if you're not really doing anything. The important thing is spending focused time together. 

Acts of Service

• You feel cared for when your partner supports you and helps lighten your responsibilities by doing some chores or tasks for you. Domestic bliss unlocked. 
• It means a lot when someone follows through, especially if they're attentive and step in to help. When they do, you trust that your partner pays attention to the little things. 
• You believe talk is cheap. Actions mean everything. You need someone to show up and know you can rely on them. Show, don't just say. 
• You love it when your partner steps in to do small things for you to make your life easier. 
• If you're feeling stressed or overwhelmed, it helps when your partner sees it as an opportunity to step up and ease your burden by taking something off your plate that's easier for them to do. This small act helps you feel cared for.

Receiving Gifts

• You feel loved when you receive a gift. The present itself is nice, but it's the thought behind it that really matters: the gift becomes something that reminds you they were thinking of you, fueling your love.
• After a date or trip, it's wonderful to bring home a keepsake. Seeing the item reminds you of those emotional moments. 
• The best gifts are meaningful. If it's a surprise gift, even better. It strengthens the bond and builds a deeper connection for you. 
• During holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries, you want to celebrate with some kind of gift. Those days are very special, and you love using them as a reminder of your commitment. 
• The gesture of receiving a gift shows you are seen, cared for, and appreciated. You truly thrive on the thoughtfulness behind the gestures and nostalgic items. 

Physical Touch

• You look forward to hugs and kisses—nothing beats touch and physical intimacy. 
• You feel grounded in your relationship when physical affection is available and often nurtured. Holding hands, long hugs, and kisses are common and welcome. 
• You're up for public displays of affection. It helps you feel wanted and desired. 
• If your partner sits next to you, you prefer to sit close and cuddle. The closer, the better. 
• Sexual intimacy makes you feel loved and close to your partner.

The Most Common Love Language

In the Five Love Languages Quiz, Chapman analyzed the results of 10,000 people who took the online test in 2010 and found that Words of Affirmation was the most common language, but by a small margin. In 2018, the dating app Hinge analyzed their users and found that Quality Time was by far the most common love language. 

Dating Someone with Each Love Language

Love languages are deceptively simple, and understanding them can be transformative if you put in the work. They invite curiosity, not mind-reading, in a relationship.

Here are some tips for the Five Love Languages Quiz and dating people with each love language:

• Words of Affirmation: Words mean everything, so choose them wisely. Err on the side of positivity, and your connection will thrive. When you notice good things, say them—and say them often. Try not to engage in non-constructive criticism—words have power and leave a lasting impression.
• Quality Time: Carve out intentional space in your schedule for time together. It can be as simple as taking a walk outside together (a pandemic-friendly activity) and having a good, deep conversation about your day. Leave the phones at home. 
• Acts of Service: Go the extra mile with your actions to show your love. Don't always focus on chores—people have different interpretations of what this love language means to them, so ask directly what they need. Show attentiveness by anticipating how you can make their life easier. These little acts add up and can make a big difference. 
• Gifts: They'll remember special occasions, so be sure to mark them on your calendar and honor the day and your partner with a thoughtful gift. Earn extra brownie points with a "just because" gift. It can be as simple as a handpicked flower from the garden or a cute keychain from a favorite travel destination. These small gestures can celebrate the relationship in a big way. 
• Physical Touch: Gentle caresses and physical affection are everything. This love language is straightforward, easy to satisfy, and doesn't require much planning, effort, or money.