A Woman's Perspective: Security and Safety Between Husband and Wife

The sense of security is considered the most important factor for a successful marriage, as it gives both spouses the feeling that their family and life are built on strong, stable, and solid foundations.

Therefore, any disruption to this sense of security can cause a rift in the family relationship in general, and the marital relationship in particular.

A Woman's Perspective on Security in Marriage

There are many factors that help a woman feel secure in her marriage, including:

• The husband's smile, which can be seen as the key to a woman's sense of security. When she meets her husband and sees him smiling with joy at their meeting, she feels the sincerity of his love, the happiness in his heart, and the depth of his joy.
• Showing love and appreciation for the woman, which can be done by praising everything she does, whether it's raising children or household duties, no matter how small, whether from the husband or the children. Also, avoiding harsh criticism if she makes a mistake.
• The husband rewarding his wife, whether through words of thanks or by giving symbolic or luxurious gifts. The type of gift depends on the husband's financial situation, but what matters is that the gift is accompanied by words of gratitude and appreciation for what the wife does for her husband, her home, and her children.
• The husband dealing with his wife's shortcomings by helping her develop and gain experience, offering constructive criticism, and avoiding criticism in front of others, especially the children.
• Not comparing the woman to other women, as each has her own unique experience and social circumstances.
• Having good thoughts about the woman helps eliminate negative feelings.
• By nature, a woman may interpret a lack of jealousy from her partner as indifference, so the husband should show some jealousy without exaggerating, as too much jealousy can turn into suspicion, leading to serious consequences and a rift in the marital relationship.
• The husband should also pay attention to body language, which makes up 55% of communication skills. This includes tone of voice, eye contact, facial expressions, natural gestures, humor, appearance and clothing, and fragrance.
• Good listening is also a fundamental pillar that makes a woman feel secure in her marriage. A woman pays close attention to this, so when she is speaking, the husband should (turn off the TV, not look at his phone, not read the newspaper, not interrupt her until she finishes her thought, and listen no matter how trivial the topic may seem). This gives the woman greater peace of mind.
• Sharing secrets with the wife is important and increases her trust in her husband, and she in turn will share her secrets with him.
• Respecting her family by staying in touch with them, checking on them, helping them if they ask for help, and honoring them when they visit.
• Going out regularly with the wife, even if just for a walk, helps break the monotony and daily routine of life.

Signs a Wife Feels Unsafe in Her Marriage

There are several signs that may appear when a wife loses her sense of security, including:

• Losing confidence in herself and in others.
• Constant feelings of stress and anxiety.
• Irritability and quick temper, making it difficult for her to control her actions or reactions toward those around her. This can have a serious impact on the children's mental health, as studies have shown that children of irritable mothers tend to be more aggressive.
• Confusion.

In conclusion: A woman is naturally emotional, so her feelings must be considered by those around her, whether friends or relatives, and especially by her husband and children. This will give her a sense of security with those around her, making her more giving and more engaged with society.